Alongside his coaching practice for more than a decade, he runs his research portal Know Your True Self Research Academy (KYTS).
He is among the pioneer promoters of Emotional Health and well-being in INDIA and other countries since 2005 and apart from 10000 hours of personal coaching experiences, he runs workshops and seminars under his own initiative MEHAC - Mental & Emotional Health Awareness Campaign to not only spread awareness but also to equip the individuals to take charge of their own emotional health and well-being.
- The Quiet Cost of Self-Deception - December 31, 2025
- When the World Arrives Quietly - December 31, 2025
- Embracing Intellectual Honesty in the Age of AI & Machine Learning - November 9, 2024
Most self-deception is not loud.
It doesn’t announce itself as dishonesty.
It arrives gently — as justification, optimism, or reassurance.
We tell ourselves we are being patient, when we are actually avoiding.
We call it flexibility, when it is fear.
We name it positivity, when it is silence in the face of something we already know.
This is not moral failure.
It is human.
Self-deception often begins as a form of self-protection —
a way to stay functional when the truth feels inconvenient, disruptive, or demanding.
But over time, it carries a cost.
Not immediately visible.
Not publicly noticeable.
Yet deeply felt.
Where honesty actually begins
Honesty is often framed as something we offer others.
But its earliest and most consequential form is private.
It begins in the moments when something inside you tightens —
and you soften the truth to keep moving.
When an inner no is reworded into a polite maybe.
When discomfort is renamed as “part of the process.”
When misalignment is managed instead of acknowledged.
This is where integrity quietly drifts —
not through betrayal, but through small internal adjustments.
Sensitive individuals often feel this drift earlier.
Not because they are morally superior,
but because they register incongruence before it becomes visible.
What others may call intuition is often just early honesty.
The comfort of affirmations — and their limit
Many motivational approaches encourage us to “fake it till we make it.”
To repeat affirmations until confidence appears.
To overwrite doubt with certainty.
Sometimes this helps.
But sometimes, it asks us to bypass something essential.
There is a difference between encouragement and denial.
Between aspiration and avoidance.
When affirmations are used to cover what we are not yet ready to face,
they create momentum without grounding.
And momentum without grounding eventually exhausts trust —
not in the world, but in oneself.
When truth is faced, not forced
There is a different kind of empowerment that comes from honesty.
Not the loud confidence of motivation,
but the quiet steadiness that follows clarity.
When you stop pretending you are ready — and admit you are not.
When you acknowledge fear without dressing it up as strategy.
When you name what is true, even if it complicates the next step.
Something settles.
You may not feel stronger immediately —
but you feel aligned.
And alignment creates a different kind of courage.
One that does not rely on performance.
One that does not need constant reinforcement.
Just the strength to take the next step without self-betrayal.
The real cost of self-deception
The greatest cost of self-deception is not failure.
It is erosion.
A slow weakening of self-trust.
A quiet doubt about one’s own perceptions.
A sense that something is off — without being able to say why.
When we repeatedly override what we know,
we teach ourselves not to listen.
And over time, the inner voice doesn’t disappear —
it simply stops being believed.
This is why even success can feel hollow
when it is built on avoidance rather than truth.
A different discipline
Intellectual honesty is not harsh.
It is not brutal.
It does not demand exposure.
It is a discipline of gentle clarity.
It asks:
What do I already know?
What am I justifying?
What truth am I postponing?
Not to judge —
but to stand in reality without distortion.
This is not about becoming rigid.
It is about becoming trustworthy — to oneself.
A closing reflection
You do not need to confront everything at once.
You do not need to be fearless.
You do not need to be perfectly honest.
You only need to stop lying gently to yourself
in the places where truth is already clear.
Because when honesty begins inside,
it doesn’t weaken you.
It steadies you.
And from that steadiness,
the next step — however small — becomes possible.
